June 16, 2025 Parents: Lead First, Friend Second
“When you teach your son, you teach your son’s son.“
-The Talmud
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Parents, your children are desperately craving your leadership, even when they’re pushing against every boundary you set. They truly need you to be their steady North Star, not their buddy who is afraid to ruffle feathers. Consistency wrapped in Compassion is your secret sauce. When you discipline with love, you’re not being mean ; you’re being purposeful and effective. You’re teaching them that actions have consequences, but you’re doing it from a place of deep care and love, not anger. This consistency becomes their internal compass long after they’ve left your nest. In truth, you’re almost literally providing the all-important structure for your grandchildren as you guide your own children to their maturity. Now, I know it’s tempting to want to be their friend. Trust me, I get it! But here’s what I’ve learned: children have plenty of friends, but at most, two parents. They need you to fill that crucial role first and foremost. The friendship? That beautiful bonus comes naturally when you’ve done the hard work of leading with love. Your children are watching how you handle pressure, how you make decisions, and how you treat others. They’re absorbing your leadership style like little sponges. When you lead with consistency, kindness, and unwavering standards, you’re not just raising good kids, you’re raising future leaders who will change the world. So stand tall and lead with love, discipline with grace and remember, right now, they need your leadership far more than they need your friendship.
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