April 28, 2025 Overcome Your Loneliness
"A great relationship is about two things: First, appreciating the similarities and second, respecting the differences." - Invajy
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There are a lot of lonely people of all ages and genders! Why?
I have been on planet Earth for over eight decades! I have seen many things. I have experienced many things. I've thought deeply about many, many things pertaining to the world and and its inhabitants. For most of those 80+ years I have been an observer and student of human behavior and human nature. In today's muse, I will share a few of my thoughts on why I think some people who don't want to be, are alone.
A brief look at three of the important traits exhibited by people who seem to connect well with others to form satisfying wholesome relationships might be instructional for those who are challenged in this area.
Let's start with Openness. Someone who is deemed 'easy to talk to' and exhibiting a pleasant, considerate, and conversational tone might be considered to be open;
as in not having a hidden agenda.
Next, let's consider Self-confidence. Here I'm not speaking of an aggressive or overpowering person, but rather someone who, by their very demeanor and respectful conversational style reveal a healthy level of comfort in their own skin; their level of self acceptance brings an easy air to any conversation with them. Third, and lastly, for today, the term Unpretentious comes to mind. This type of person conveys to you the feeling that you are talking to the person they actually are; without deception or hidden agendas. This person is easy to talk to because they make you feel like it's OK to be you. You like that feeling! So, if you consider yourself as someone who has fewer friends or acquaintances than you'd like to have, try taking one of the above three traits and work to improve just one at a time. For example, if you start with openness, begin by trying to inject a little more of how you feel about things or what you think about things into your normal, every day conversations. Please keep this in mind as you begin to practice more openness, you are not trying to get others to think your way, you are merely letting them know your opinion on whatever is being discussed. If you are willing to put in the effort to improve in just this one area of openness, you may be surprised how much sharing your thoughts and opinions with others will allow them to understand you in perhaps a new way. You are an interesting person, but no one will know that unless you share who you are with them. Improvement in the other two traits will require the same determined effort as you practice them. A better more pleasant and enjoyable life is what we all want and need. If you are willing to leave your comfort zone to get better at what needs improving, prepare to be amazed by how this practice will change your life for the better. I double duty dare you to give it a try! Please let us know how this works out for you.
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