October 13, 2025 When Your Baby Bird Learns to Fly: Letting Go as Your Child Becomes an Adult
“One of the greatest titles in the world is a parent, and one of the biggest blessings in the world is to have parents to call mom and dad.” – Jim DeMint
Listen to, or read this meditation:
Remember when your little one took their first steps? You cheered, clapped, and maybe shed a happy tear. Now here you are, watching them take their biggest steps yet – right out your front door and into their own life. Oh boy, does it feel different this time.
Letting go when your child becomes an adult is like watching a sunset. It's beautiful, natural, and absolutely necessary – but that doesn't make it easy. Your heart might feel like it's being stretched in two directions at once. Part of you wants to hold tight to all those precious years, while another part knows it's time to trust everything you've taught them.
Here's the wonderful truth: letting go isn't about loving less. It's about loving differently. Think of it like changing from being their tour guide to becoming their cheerleader in the stands. You're still there, still caring deeply, but now you're watching them navigate their own path.
Your child becoming an adult doesn't mean you failed as a parent – it means you succeeded! You raised someone strong enough to stand on their own two feet. That's something to celebrate, even when your mama heart feels a little tender about it.
Sure, there will be moments when you want to jump in and fix things. When they make mistakes, your instinct might be to swoop in like a superhero. But here's where wisdom kicks in: sometimes the best gift you can give is letting them figure it out. Those stumbles and victories? They're building the confidence and skills they'll need for life.
This new chapter isn't about becoming strangers. It's about becoming friends. You get to discover who they are as a grown-up person, not just as your child. How exciting is that? You might find you have more in common than you ever imagined.
Remember, letting go happens in small steps, not one giant leap. Some days you'll nail it, and other days you might slip back into old habits. That's perfectly normal and okay. Growing into this new relationship takes practice for both of you.
The love doesn't shrink – it just gets a new shape. Instead of daily hugs, maybe it's weekly phone calls. Instead of bedtime stories, maybe it's sharing funny memes. Different seasons, same deep connection.
Your Action Step: This week, reach out to your adult child in a new way. Instead of asking about their problems or giving advice, simply tell them one thing you admire about who they've become. Watch how this simple shift opens up space for a beautiful, grown-up friendship to bloom.
Remember, you're not losing a child – you're gaining an amazing adult friend who just happens to share your DNA and your heart.
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