November 24, 2025 Fear of Starting Over: Embracing Life Transitions as Growth Opportunities
“This is life. Things get taken away. You will learn to start over many times - or you will be useless.”- Mitch Albom
Listen to, or read this meditation:
Starting over is terrifying. I get it.
Maybe you’re staring at a job you’ve outgrown but can’t imagine leaving. Maybe your marriage ended and you’re facing life alone after twenty years. Maybe you’re looking at your reflection thinking, “How did I get here?” and wondering if it’s too late to change directions.
Here’s what I want you to know: that fear you’re feeling? It’s not a stop sign. It’s actually proof that you’re standing at the edge of something important.
Think about a caterpillar for a second. That little guy spends his whole life crawling around on leaves. Then one day, something inside tells him it’s time to change. So he wraps himself up in a cocoon-basically putting himself in complete darkness-and breaks down entirely. Everything he was just… dissolves. Sounds awful, right?
But here’s the beautiful part: that breakdown is actually a breakthrough. He’s not dying. He’s transforming. And when he finally emerges, he doesn’t crawl anymore. He flies.
Starting over feels like that cocoon moment. It feels like everything’s falling apart. But maybe-just maybe-you’re not falling apart. Maybe you’re falling together in a new way.
I’ve learned something watching people go through big life changes: the ones who suffer most aren’t the ones facing hard transitions. They’re the ones fighting those transitions, white-knuckling the past, refusing to let go of what was.
Life has seasons, friend. Always has, always will. And clinging to summer when winter’s coming won’t stop the snow from falling. It’ll just make you cold and miserable while everyone else is inside by the fire.
What if you looked at your fresh start differently? What if this ending is actually an invitation? A chance to become who you were always meant to be? To try things you put off? To discover strengths you didn’t know you had?
Yes, starting over means leaving comfort behind. It means not knowing how things will turn out. It means being a beginner again when you’re used to being the expert. That’s uncomfortable. But you know what’s more uncomfortable? Living a half-lived life because you’re too scared to step into the unknown.
Every master was once a beginner. Every success story started with someone taking a shaky first step. Every butterfly was once a caterpillar who had to trust the process.
Your transition-whatever it is-isn’t punishment. It’s preparation. It’s life’s way of clearing space for something better. Something truer. Something more you.
So take a breath. Feel the fear and do it anyway. Starting over isn’t failure. It’s courage in action. And you’ve got more of that than you realize.
Action Step: Write down three things this transition might teach you or three doors it could open. Sometimes seeing possibilities on paper makes them feel more real than the fear.
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