July 7, 2025 Building Fences Around Your Heart (The Good Kind!)
Think about a pretty garden in your neighborhood. The gardener puts up a nice fence around it. Why? Not to keep people away forever, but to protect the flowers while still letting folks peek in and enjoy the beauty. That's what good boundaries are like with people we care about!
Here's what I want you to know: boundaries aren't mean walls that keep everyone out. They're more like friendly gates that let the right people in at the right times. When we build big walls, we're scared. When we set boundaries, we're being smart and properly caring about ourselves.
Boundaries are like having a map for your friendships and family relationships. They help you stay close to people without getting hurt or super tired. A boundary might sound like this: "I really love hanging out with you! I need to go home by 9 o'clock so I can get enough sleep." See how that works? You're being loving AND taking care of yourself.
The best part happens when you share your boundaries in a kind, clear way. Instead of saying "You never let me talk," try saying "I feel really good when I can finish what I'm saying. Can you help me with that?" This way, you're asking for help instead of making someone feel bad.
Remember this, my friend: you can't give water from an empty pitcher. When you protect your happy feelings with good boundaries, you're actually giving your relationships a gift – the gift of YOU at your best! You'll be more present, more patient, and more loving.
The most beautiful friendships and family relationships happen when everyone respects each other's boundaries. When both people feel safe to be themselves, trust grows like strong tree roots. You're not walking on thin ice anymore – you're dancing together like best friends!
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